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I’ve had the privilege of working with so many great pets recently! Photography is more than just beautiful images, but an experience. The experience should be fun, memorable and leave you feeling joy. I know many clients and friends that are almost addicted to the experience because it is so wonderful! However, there are times when getting things ready for your session can be overwhelming. Sometimes you just have an off day or things go unexpectedly. The good news is, the unexpected isn’t always a bad thing. I’ve seen many clients stress about time, outfits, mood, behavior, and a multitude of other factors that may or may not be in their control. At the end of the day I often hear, “WOW! These are so much better than I expected”. It’s important to remember that photography is work, and it’s not easy being in front of the camera anymore than it is behind, but when it’s all said and done, a passionate, and talented photographer will provide you with the most unexpected and breathtaking images that instantly make any stress you had disappear. This precious beagle mix, Sadie, was photographed over the weekend. She was a pleasure to work with and provided me with some of the most “unexpected” images with her soulful eyes! I fell in love with this photo immediately!
This is a cause close to my heart, as both my babies are senior dogs!!
AnonymousIm hoping you can help me with something. In the season two intro, it shows Prue moving a vase type thing across her desk at Bucklands and her hair is kind of up and she's in a black suit. What episode is that from? In all the years I've watched charmed I cannot remember seeing that part. If you happen to know, Id appreciate. Its one of those things thats been nagging at me.
I’m not really sure myself.. can anybody help this anon?
It’s season 2 episode 1. Witch Trials. 100% positive! I think I have a Charmed PhD.
- the brain is like a muscle and will in certain areas improve with practice (e.g. juggling improves visual perception of motion, memory games strengthens memory). it also gets tired with use.
- the prefrontal cortext is your “willpower” organ — it helps you do the harder thing among different choices
- meditation sends blood to the prefrontal cortext and makes it stronger
- 3 aspects of willpower goals: I will, I won’t, I want (big goal)
- we cave to impulses when we’re distracted, stressed and tired (the muscle is not effective)
- our natural impulses: fight or flight. try “pause and plan”
- An “I will” problem might be better cast as an “I won’t” problem. e.g. if you have trouble with “i will go to bed early” maybe “i won’t turn on the TV at night” works better. try to make it fun and playful for you. (instead of “i won’t be late” make it “i will always be the first one there” if you’re competitive)
- good eating, exercise, sleep all help your willpower muscle
- slow breathing, shavasana, exercise, shot of greenery, nap, a little sugar all might help rejuvenate your willpower
- if you overburden it, the willpower muscle will get weaker, and it works across different arenas. e.g. students cramming will inhale junk food. dieters cheat on their spouses more.
- you can build up your willpower muscle by training it with small non-overwhelming habits (e.g. don’t surf the TV during commercials)
- beware moral licensing: that good feeling you get when you finish writing out your to-do list. you haven’t actually done anything yet but you feel like you deserve a reward. you don’t (basically the angel on your shoulder was satisfied and now all you hear is the demon). instead, ask “why” you resisted or did the hard thing. focus on your goals.
- decrease variability: if you slip, make a rule that you will always do that thing for a month. helps you value future time.
- beware dopamine fueled desires. Dopamine makes you pursue pleasure, it doesn’t mean you experience happiness. Notice how it actually feels to actually do the thing you think you want to do. Often not that great.
- try to create a dopamine effect for things you want to do (e.g. listen to music while vacuuming)
- Beware “what the hell” effect. Forgive yourself for slipping up, it’s natural and human. don’t think you “blew” the whole diet and binge.
- Effective stress relief strategies: exercise, praying, reading, music, time with friends/family, massage, walk outside, meditation, yoga, creative hobby
- Worst stress relief strategies: gambling, shopping, smoking, drinking, eating, video games, surfing internet, TV or movies for more than 2 hours.
- Frame the decision as a loss of future benefit instead of a current gain (e.g. is my future awesome body worth this cookie)
- precommit — burn your ships. tax your time. destroy your ethernet card, etc.
- don’t wait for “future you” to complete your to-do list. there is no “future you” that is full of energy, focused, diligent and loves doing taxes.
- even a 10 mins delay of an impulse will make you reduce your flawed PV calculation of its benefit
- social proof: what you think others are doing is a huge influence on your behavior. find a group of people who embody your ideals.
- don’t think about the white bear. supressing an urge makes it more powerful. instead, “surf the urge.” stop and notice every physical response, notice your breathing. accept that you have this feeling sometimes. it’s uncontrollable, but remember that you choose whether to act on them or not. remember your goal. the urge will pass like a wave if you wait.
- imagine how proud you’d feel not succumbing to your urge.
- people who think they’re especially great at something are the worst.
~ Kelly McGonigal
Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there’s nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you! - Lao Tzu